"Never try to solve all the problems at once - make them line up for you one-by-one."-Richard Sloma. There are times when we are faced with so many problems to deal. However it's difficult for people to find solutions to their problems. There are many ways to deal with your problems. The book, The Unbecoming of Mara Dyer by Michelle Hodkin, an amazing book to read, is about a girl named Mara Dyer who is in a state of shock of her friend's death due to an old asylum collapsing. Mara doesn't even remember what really happpened and why but soon she starts to recall her memories in her dreams and finds a huge power that lies within her. That power can kill anyone she wishes to kill or hate a lot. Mara is very confused and afraid of what she is capable of. Throughout the book, Mara Dyer deals with her problems in many ways.
Many times, Mara runs away from her problems than actually facing it. She tries to escape from all her anxiety and be somewhere where she can't hurt her loved ones. She just gives up and think that there are no more solutions to help her go through what she's facing. For example, Mara gets really mad at her brother's kidnapper and immagines someone killing the man. However her plan to kill her brother's kidnapper almost killed her dad. Mara feels very remorseful about it and plans to make up lies so she would be put in jail, where she really wouldn't be able to harm the people she cares for. When Mara realize that she has no way to be fixed, she says, "All of my choices had been wrong. Everything I touched I would destroy. If I stayed, it could be Joseph or Daniel or my mother or Noah, next. But I couldn't just disappear, with my parent's resources, I'd be found in hours."(Page 449) This quote is very meaningful because it shows that Mara really loves and cares for other's lives. She really doesn't want to hurt anyone. Infact she wants to control her power so she wouldn't use it by accident. The mood of this quote is remorseful because Mara feels that it's her fault that her dad is in a death situation. Her dad almost could've died! However I think Mara shouldn't feel guilty because it's not her fault that she can't control her powers. Her emotions just naturally controls it. I think Mara should learn to control her emotions first. She should take baby steps such as starting to open up to her close ones. Another way Mara run away from her problems is that she moves to a whole different state and leaves behind everything including the place she had lived ever since she was born. For instance after her bestfriend Rachel's funeral Mara explains to her mom why moving will help her a lot, "She was always in this house - I can't look at anything without thinking about her. And if I go back to school, I'll see her there, too. But I want to go back to school. I need to. I need to think about something else." (Page 16) This quote is meaningful because someway or the other, everyone can connect to this. When we face greif, we try to move on by hanging out with our friends or doing things you like to do. Instead of moving to a whole different state, Mara should enjoy her life and move on. She would still be remembering her friends but she should realize that her friends would now be in a better place. A lot of people in reality tends to run away from their problems rather than facing them and finding solutions. Running away from your problems doesn't seem like a brave choice. As Edwin Louis Cole once said, "You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there," meaning when you fall in the waters, which symbolize a problem, you drown because you just stay there, which symbolizes that you don't do anything to solve your problem. However when you use your techniques and start swimming you prevent yourself from drowning. This symbolize finding solutions to your problems. All in all, characters in books and in reality usually run away from their problems and just gives up on finding solutions.
Another way Mara deals with her problems is by seeking help. She tries communicating with other people and ask them for advice. She looks for the person who would understand her and help her go through her problems. For example, Mara shares her thoughts, feelings and her personal problems with her boyfriend, Noah, who she really loves, trust and knows that he would understand and help her fix herself. It says, " 'Fix me,' I commanded him. 'This thing, what I've done - there's something wrong with me, Noah. Fix it.' " (Page 393) This is meaningful, because it shows that Mara really wants everything to be fixed and back to the way it was before. It also shows that Mara actually tries to go through her problems. She's not afraid to hide her problems from her family and friends. Sharing your problems with your very close and loved ones is a very good idea. When they understands you, you feel supported and both of you can help each other. Another way Mara seeks help is by seeing a pshychologists and asking what's wrong with her. When all the other solutions doesn't seem to be working, Mara gives a final try. When Mara asks Noah where they're going he answers, "1821 Calle Ocho," Noah said. "You wanted to go back to the botanica, didn't you?" This quote shows that Noah really cares for Mara and wants to help her figure out her power. Noah also seems to know exactly what Mara wants to do. By seeking her boyfriend's help, Mara feels safe and more confident and motivated to find a solution. As you can see, seeking help is a great way to deal with your problems.
Overall, Mara Dyer has many different ways to deal with her problems. This is important because many people throughout the world needs to realize that sometimes in order to solve your problems, you need to try different things and see if they work. There won't be only one solution; infact there would be many solutions to that problem. Teenagers can connect to this because they can realize that giving up is a cowardly act. They should be valiant and overcome any obstacles that come their way. This book thaught me that you need to work hard to solve your problems. By sharing your feelings and seeking help you really get supported and it gives you an idea to solve your problems. Running away from your problems should be the last thing you do. To sum up, you can deal with your life problems in many ways.
Many times, Mara runs away from her problems than actually facing it. She tries to escape from all her anxiety and be somewhere where she can't hurt her loved ones. She just gives up and think that there are no more solutions to help her go through what she's facing. For example, Mara gets really mad at her brother's kidnapper and immagines someone killing the man. However her plan to kill her brother's kidnapper almost killed her dad. Mara feels very remorseful about it and plans to make up lies so she would be put in jail, where she really wouldn't be able to harm the people she cares for. When Mara realize that she has no way to be fixed, she says, "All of my choices had been wrong. Everything I touched I would destroy. If I stayed, it could be Joseph or Daniel or my mother or Noah, next. But I couldn't just disappear, with my parent's resources, I'd be found in hours."(Page 449) This quote is very meaningful because it shows that Mara really loves and cares for other's lives. She really doesn't want to hurt anyone. Infact she wants to control her power so she wouldn't use it by accident. The mood of this quote is remorseful because Mara feels that it's her fault that her dad is in a death situation. Her dad almost could've died! However I think Mara shouldn't feel guilty because it's not her fault that she can't control her powers. Her emotions just naturally controls it. I think Mara should learn to control her emotions first. She should take baby steps such as starting to open up to her close ones. Another way Mara run away from her problems is that she moves to a whole different state and leaves behind everything including the place she had lived ever since she was born. For instance after her bestfriend Rachel's funeral Mara explains to her mom why moving will help her a lot, "She was always in this house - I can't look at anything without thinking about her. And if I go back to school, I'll see her there, too. But I want to go back to school. I need to. I need to think about something else." (Page 16) This quote is meaningful because someway or the other, everyone can connect to this. When we face greif, we try to move on by hanging out with our friends or doing things you like to do. Instead of moving to a whole different state, Mara should enjoy her life and move on. She would still be remembering her friends but she should realize that her friends would now be in a better place. A lot of people in reality tends to run away from their problems rather than facing them and finding solutions. Running away from your problems doesn't seem like a brave choice. As Edwin Louis Cole once said, "You don't drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there," meaning when you fall in the waters, which symbolize a problem, you drown because you just stay there, which symbolizes that you don't do anything to solve your problem. However when you use your techniques and start swimming you prevent yourself from drowning. This symbolize finding solutions to your problems. All in all, characters in books and in reality usually run away from their problems and just gives up on finding solutions.
Another way Mara deals with her problems is by seeking help. She tries communicating with other people and ask them for advice. She looks for the person who would understand her and help her go through her problems. For example, Mara shares her thoughts, feelings and her personal problems with her boyfriend, Noah, who she really loves, trust and knows that he would understand and help her fix herself. It says, " 'Fix me,' I commanded him. 'This thing, what I've done - there's something wrong with me, Noah. Fix it.' " (Page 393) This is meaningful, because it shows that Mara really wants everything to be fixed and back to the way it was before. It also shows that Mara actually tries to go through her problems. She's not afraid to hide her problems from her family and friends. Sharing your problems with your very close and loved ones is a very good idea. When they understands you, you feel supported and both of you can help each other. Another way Mara seeks help is by seeing a pshychologists and asking what's wrong with her. When all the other solutions doesn't seem to be working, Mara gives a final try. When Mara asks Noah where they're going he answers, "1821 Calle Ocho," Noah said. "You wanted to go back to the botanica, didn't you?" This quote shows that Noah really cares for Mara and wants to help her figure out her power. Noah also seems to know exactly what Mara wants to do. By seeking her boyfriend's help, Mara feels safe and more confident and motivated to find a solution. As you can see, seeking help is a great way to deal with your problems.
Overall, Mara Dyer has many different ways to deal with her problems. This is important because many people throughout the world needs to realize that sometimes in order to solve your problems, you need to try different things and see if they work. There won't be only one solution; infact there would be many solutions to that problem. Teenagers can connect to this because they can realize that giving up is a cowardly act. They should be valiant and overcome any obstacles that come their way. This book thaught me that you need to work hard to solve your problems. By sharing your feelings and seeking help you really get supported and it gives you an idea to solve your problems. Running away from your problems should be the last thing you do. To sum up, you can deal with your life problems in many ways.
